Can you remember when you were planning your wedding, moving in together or expecting the arrival of your first child? There was so much to talk about and to plan.
Sadly on the breakdown of a relationship the one thing people don’t do well is to talk and to plan. Communicating with one another and reaching agreement can be so much more difficult when you are separating. You might be feeling angry or depressed and not feel like you want to talk to your former partner. This is perfectly normal. When the time is right for you Family Mediation can help you work things out together so the future can be positive.
It can also cost a lot less than ending up in lengthy disputes through your solicitors or ending up in court.
We have Resolution trained mediators all with extensive experience in family law and dispute resolution. Using their skills and experience they can help you and your partner start communicating in a new way so that you can plan the future apart.
What is family mediation?
- It is a voluntary process
- Both parties meet with the mediator, usually together
- You will have the opportunity to reflect and seek legal advice at each stage of mediation before concluding any agreement.
- The Mediator is impartial and will not have discussions or correspondence which is not shared with both of you.
- The Mediator will provide you with information and help you to understand the issues.
- You will be expected to be open, honest and to provide financial disclosure where appropriate.
- The couple have ownership of the process and decide the outcome.
- All options can be discussed openly and fairly.
- The children are at the forefront of all discussions.
What is family mediation not?
- An opportunity to bully, threaten or treat another party disrespectfully
- A process that does not require you to be open and honest
- A process which imposes a decision on you
- An easy option
- An alternative to legal advice
- About reconciliation or counselling.
What can I use family mediation for?
- Discussing Divorce or separation
- Working out a financial agreement
- Putting in place arrangements for your children
- Improving communication
- Working out a specific problem
How Coffin Mew Mediation works
You can contact us directly or be referred by your lawyer.
We will speak to you and your partner on the telephone or sometimes in person to explain the agreement to mediate and find out what you need to resolve in mediation.
We will arrange an appointment, usually for you together to meet with the Mediator. The number of sessions will depend on your case but on average most couples need between 4 and 6 sessions each lasting about an hour and a half.
At the end of each session the Mediator will summarise the discussion in writing. This can help you reflect and take legal advice if you need to.
If you reach an agreement then the Mediator will draw up a Memorandum of Understanding. This will enable you to take legal advice if you wish to do so and for your lawyer to understand the proposals and complete the legal formalities.
In cases involving finances the Mediator will prepare a financial schedule.
Paying for Mediation
The hourly cost of mediation is £200 per hour plus vat. This is a joint cost. In addition to the meeting costs the Mediator will charge for preparing, summaries, schedules and Memorandum of Understanding. The Mediator will not charge for arranging appointments or copying documents.
The hourly rate could be shared by each of you or you could agree to set aside funds from your jont assets to meet the cost. You may decide one of you meets the entire cost.
To receive a copy of our our Fixed fees for mediation brochure email us here
It is compulsory before issuing an application with the court to attend a MIAMs meeting. This appointment is a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. The purpose is to provide you with information about processes which might help you avoid the intervention of the court, determine whether or not your matter is suitable for mediation and to explore whether other services can offer you advice or support.
Our fee for a MIAM meeting is £87 plus vat. If you decide to engage in the mediation process this will be taken toward the cost of your first mediation session.
If you decide to proceed with an application to the court or your matter is not suitable for mediation, you will be given a certificate (FM1) which will enable you to issue your application with the court.
Coffin Mew Family Mediaton does not provide publicly funded services.